I LOVE YOU ANYWAY
The fear of rejection may be one of the most basic fears of the human experience. Dr. Joe Harding tells a heart-warming story of a man who finally decided to ask his boss for a raise in salary. It was Friday. He told his wife that morning what he was about to do. All day the man felt nervous and apprehensive. Late in the afternoon he summoned the courage to approach his employer. To his delight, the boss agreed to a raise.
The man arrived home to a beautiful table set with their best china. Candles were lighted. His wife had prepared a festive meal. Immediately he figured that someone from the office had tipped her off! Finding his wife in the kitchen, he told her the good news. They embraced and kissed, then sat down to a wonderful meal. Next to his plate the man found a beautiful lettered note. It read :
"Congratulations, darling! I knew you'd get the raise! These things will tell you how much I love you."
While he was on his way to the kitchen to get the dessert he noticed that a second card had fallen from her pocket. Picking it off the floor, he read :
"Don't worry about not getting the raise! You deserve it anyway! These things will tell you how much I love you."
Total acceptance! Total love.
The wife’s love for her husband was not contingent upon his success at work, it was just the opposite. If he were to fail there or be rejected by his boss, he'd be all the more accepted at home. She stood behind him no matter what; softening the blows, healing the wounds, believing in him, loving him. That's the way families “can” be with each other.
We can bear being rejected by almost anyone if we're loved even by one person unconditionally. That one person is already existing in our life and that is “God”.
God loves each of his children equally and unconditionally, whether we think of him or not, whether we pray to him or not, he still cares for us. It is important in life that we love others unconditionally just as God's love is unconditional towards us. His love for us is perfect and is not dependent on whether we triumph or stumble or whether we succeed or fail.
There is a God in each one of us. Let’s not conceal one's true feelings or intentions, let’s see God in each and every one around us. Let us not go forth saying that we love with no feeling behind it, but rather let us go forth with a pure heart showing God's love to all unconditionally just as God wishes for each of us.
Love each other like how God loves us.